William's World

So I am finally getting around to a proper update at last, I’m having to it off my laptop which has only half a screen since matt accidentally cracked the screen and broke it.

So….gosh, too much to say, it’s been so long. Well like I said previously I ended upo being in hospital for nearly an entire week and William went to stay with his grandparents (matts folks) to free Matt up for visiting hours and his university stuff. I wasn’t overly impressed but at least I knew he would be happy and well cared for. It doesn’t really matter how I feel about things, they love him and he loves them so who am I to argue that?

However – they fed him meat! Loads of meat. Jeez, why? I’ve been keeping him off that as William has enough digestion issues without adding meat in to the equation. When I did start giving it to him properly I wanted to do it slowly, chicken first then following on with red meats. He got them all…in a week. *shakes head* Yeah that did wonders for his little tummy. Since he’s been home I’ve been giving him just veggies again and his tummy seems a lot better. The other thing they did was think it was “cute” to let him feed himself. Yes I know, I know he has to learn but seriously people, he’s 5 1/2 months old and no0w insists that he must feed himself. Do you know how long and messy that is, the kid doesnt have the hand eye co-ordination needed for this task. I have started to give him some finger foods – rusks and sweetcorn  rings and I have to say I am so impressed by how well he is doing with them. It will be nice when his whole meal can consists of finger foods.

So, what else was on my rant list oh yeah. Chocolate, every day. WHAT? Who the hell feeds a 5 month old chocolate every day. I have been known to giggle manically after giving him some cream etc but I don’t make a regular habit of it – who does? But Debbie “he likes it” well bully for him. I like money but noone is throwing that at me. To top it off I’m in hospital with gallstones – caused by bad diet and being far far to fat. Gallstones are not funny and neither is feeding my son chocolate at 5 months old.

Finally, my biggest annoyance. The jumperoo. Oh how I loathe the jumperoo. For thos not in the now its like a freee standing door bouncer where the baby can stand and bounce up and down while listening to really inane music and looking at flashy lights. Now the jumperoo in itself is fairly entertaining, I will grant the jumperoo that, it does keep the baby busy. But..it’s HUGE. It takes up so much room in his nursery and it’s always in my way. Want to know what my real problem with it is though? Sure you do :p I put a one present rule on christmas this year because a)we don’t have the room for loads of toys and b) I don’t want him being spoiled silly even at this young age, not like he will even remember. So when I told matts folks this they agreed and said they would buy a wardrobe for his nursery set. Fine. Good.  It’s a useful item. Where does the jumperoo come in? They were going to buy him that for christmas but then of course they couldn’t. So while nodding their. heads and agreeing with me they then turn around and purchase said present 2 months early. I’m not that stupid. *sighs* yes it is nice of them to spoil their grandson but still. Anyone seeing my point here?? And it’s so BIG. Gah. In fact, I ‘m going to have to tell them no about the wardrobe because I don’t have the space. LMAO!

Well, we have a busy week this week. Tomorrow my folks are coming to spend the day (YEY for my parents!!) and I think we will take William out for a walk. Wednesday I have my usual mummy meet up, thursday we are meeting up with Louise and Owen and Friday we are off to meet a friend we have never met before – Sally. We keep trying to meet up but it never quite works out lol so hopefully we can both make it this time.

So that’s my big old ranty post. Tomorrow we should return to normal blogging

Sorry for the lack of updates of late.  I’ve been in hospital for a week with gallstones and gallbladder infection just got home yesterday. William has been staying with matts parents while I’ve been poorly but he’s due home any minute now. YEY.

Anyway, I shall update fully later but expect comments on:

• Why not to feed my child meat every day when I say not to

• Feeding a 5 month old chocolate daily because…”he likes it”

• and..the jumperoo

LOL. Bet you’re so excited to hear this!

For quite a while now I have been following a great blog called Our Stork Was Lost But We Found Him.  They are the proud parents to two gorgeous little boys Max and Wes who they conceived through IVF. Just the other day an article in the NY Times was published featuring this couple and their children and discussing the cost of IVF, medical bills etc. Ok I hold up my hands here and say I come from the UK, land of the National Health System, we don’t pay for our health care and we don’t need health insurance so I don’t really know much about that end of things but some of the comments that were made concerning this article just astound me. They are shocking and utterly thoughtless. One person even claimed tht if this couple couldn’t conceive naturally then they should “just get over it, or adopt” – what the hell? Just get over it? I never made any secret of the fact that William was a surprise baby, we hadn’t planned to have him just yet, but people I adore the ground he…throws up on To declare that someone who cannot concieve a biological child naturally should “just get over it” is cruel and crass  and frankly I’d quite like to track them down and give them a good slap because clearly they haven’t got two brain cells to rub together. Why shouldn’t people want biological children? Why is it wrong and selfish to0 want to conceive, give birth too and raise a child of their own. I’d much rather see couples conceive using fertility treatments than “just adopt already” a child that they don’t really want. Why should they “just adopt”. As kerry points out in her blog, if they should just have adopted then surely every fertile couple out there shoudl just adopt to to help give homes to all those children that don’t have one.

I personally would love to foster/adopt a child one day but that is a personal choice for me, I shouldn’t HAVE to adopt and I shouldn’t HAVE to have another biological child if I don’t want to. I shouldn’t HAVE to anything and neither should this couple!

Ok…

I formula feed William, have done since he was 36 hours old

I mostly use disposable nappies

I weaned early against government advice

I allow my child to cry it out

I insist he sleeps in his own cot – NEVER my bed

I insist he feeds at resonable intervals, not when the mood strikes him to have a little top up.

I have areas of my life that are just for me

I am NOT a bad mother.  Infant formula is not going to kill my child. Solid food is not going to kill my child. Being left to fuss for a bit is not going to kill me child. Sleeping in his own bed is not going to kill my child. Me not spending every single second of my life with him is not going to kill my child.

I am so fed up for the attitude of some mothers out there on the internet, luckily I’ve never encountered these people in real life – maybe that’s because half of them wouldn’t have the cuts to say the stuff they do in real life. Breast is best , fine- what if you CAN’T breasfteed like me? Shall I leave my child to starve then, good plan. You want to co-sleep, go ahead, I’d rather not run that risk. You want to comfort your child to sleep everytime, that’s fine by me but I don’t want to – why isn’t that fine by you? Stupid, rude, ignorant people!! Grrrrrr

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My poor little man is poorly. Although I have to admit I wasn’t calling him my poor little man for the last 3 days he’s been screaming blue murder in a caravan in Norfolk. He hasn’t shown any sign of being ill until this evening but I guess it was coming on and that was the problem for the last few days. it did put a bit of a dampner on the holiday though since he was so grumpy and wouldn’t sleep for love nor money. I can’t even remember if I mentioned we were going away – well if I didn’t, me Will and Aunty Rachel went away for a few days to Great Yarmouth and stayed in a caravan there close to the seaside ( I spoke to tamra who informs me for you Americans out there that I infact was staying in a trailer home!) We ended up doing very little because of Williams grump but we did drop in to the sealife centre and saw the penguins and took a quick trip to Burgh Castle – photos to follow once I’ve got them on to the computer. I have some on my handy dandy new phone which takes a fairly decent shot and some on the digital camera.
When we got home this evening matt bathed William and tried to get him down to bed, yeah that didn’t go so well. He screamed and screamed and screamed. I took him in the end and he coughed a lot, cried some more and then zonked out in my arms. I then managed to get him down in his cot. He most be feeling bad because he didn’t even take his bedtime bottle – that boy lives for the bottle!
I hope he feels better soon, for his sake and mine!

sorry the website was down, we had some issues but they’re all fixed now. I’m updating off my phone so I’ll write more later when I have my laptop.